About one percent of the population are psychopaths. But, you don’t have to worry that much because there is a small chance that some of them will turn into dangerously violent.
These people are manipulative and want to cause harm to the people they know (or don’t know) and the worst part is that they don’t feel any responsibility or regret.
Many experts describe psychopaths as chameleons when it comes to social relationships because they have the ability to fit in any type of situation. These people can easily shift their identity, so they can achieve their goals. They have different motives for their manipulation – sex, money, attention etc. in addition, they know how to make other people loved and special and this is the reason why most people find psychopaths innocent, lovely, pleasant and fun at first.
Of course, they have a dark side too.
Once they start feeling bored or intimidated, they start to reveal their true personality. This is the time when psychopaths start arguments like you have never seen before. They speak about the things they’ve done wrong, but after a while you will notice that they are blaming you for their actions.
This situation looks very similar to friend or foe or good cop/bad cop – a psychological tactic usually practiced in interrogation.
The following is a list of 6 warning signs that will tell you whether the individual that you are arguing with is actually a psychopath. If you are arguing with a psychopath, you should stop it immediately.
1. Psychopaths Lie and Don’t Keep Their Promises
Nobody is perfect and each of us can make a mistake every once in a while. However, psychopaths are prone to making excuses and it seems that they rarely keep their promises. The actions they take are opposite of what they say and the frequent lies they say will leave you disappointed. So, the next time they do something that is partially true, you will actually feel good. In other words, they have achieved their goal – you will feel grateful even with their poor performance.
2. They Always Sound Superior and Patronizing
These people frequently try to make others irrational, so they can look superior. While the argument lasts, you will found out that they somehow manage to remain calm. You will feel like you are being mocked and like they are trying to test your reactions and make you feel really mad. It is quite natural to react emotionally in these cases and this is when they once again will tell you that you are unbalanced and that you need to calm down.
3. They are Real Hypocrites
When the argument reaches culmination, psychopaths usually start blaming others for their own behavior or actions. They are well-aware of the fact that you know their imperfections and that you will react. Their main objective is to trick you into emotional reaction and you will look like you are the one with problems to those witnessing the argument.
4. They Look Like They Have Multiple Personalities
Once you get into an argument with a psychopath, you will probably find out that they have more than one personality. As we have said before, they act like friend or foe or good cop/bad cop. When you calm down and the argument comes to an end, they will apologize and even make compliments. In case they don’t get a positive reaction from you, they will begin with insults that are actually focused on the compliments they’ve made. This is the moment when you will notice their multiple personalities.
5. They Have Victim Mentality
If they start losing the ground in the argument, they will probably start talking about their past and how they were bullied in school or about their mean boss or their nut ex. You will probably feel sorry for them although they are the ones who made a mistake. When they notice that they “got” you, they will start taking advantage. Psychopaths complain about being abused, but the truth is that they want to abuse others.
6. You Will Feel an Urge to Make Clear What Emotions are
In the end, you will begin to explain the basic human emotions like care and empathy to them. The truth is that they understand every emotion very well and they are doing this to hurt you.
There is Only One Solution to Stop These Arguments. You Need to End Them
If you get yourself into an argument with a psychopath you will feel exhausted and drained. The truth is that they can go on with this activity for hours and days. The worst part is that in some cases they sometimes make certain comments on purpose in order to get a reaction and they already have the answer. They are just luring you. They want to provoke you and make you continue with the useless argument.
This is especially for psychopaths that work together with you. They want you to burst in front of everyone so that you will look like a psychopath. When you are close to someone you like, they want you to become reckless and mad, so they can ruin your potential relationship.
This means that the next time you notice the tactics we’ve mentioned before when you are arguing, use different tactics. Just smile and stop the conversation.
These people don’t deserve to be part of your life.